10. Maintain her space.
During labor, women often become introverted, closing their eyes and becoming less talkative as labor progresses. Help keep surrounding noise and conversations to a minimum. If possible, turn the lights off or down.
If you’re faced with a decision such as artificially rupturing the membranes, a routine internal exam or drugs (any of which she can refuse if she wishes), use the five minute rule. Ask hospital staff if you can be alone together for five minutes to discuss the procedure and any questions you may need to ask. It’s very rare that a situation is so serious that you can’t have a few minutes to weigh up your options first.
11. Offer practical suggestions and help.
Saccral counter pressure (on the saccrum/tailbone/small of her back) is a good way to help with labor paints.
You can remind her to concentrate on her out breath (to slow breathing), suggesting she sway her hips to help with pain and offering suggestions for more comfortable position changes all help.
12. Don’t tell her what to do.
One of the most important parts of having an empowering birth is allowing the mother to be an informed part of the process. You can offer suggestions, but don’t try and force her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. You know your partner best; treat her the same way as you normally would when making decisions. That may involve giving her as much information as possible, a condensed version or giving her time to consider the decision.
Even if you make the same decision as your health carer advises…it is still YOUR decision if made from a place of knowledge (due to having information) rather than fear. – The Pitfalls Of Going With The Flow In Birth
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