You have the right to say no to anything or anyone during your birth – a medical professional or trainees. However you also want to develop a relationship with your medical carers so that they are willing to work with you instead of feeling they have to fight with you every step of the way, and simply refusing all the time won’t build that trusting relationship. This article will guide you through the steps of standing up for your rights while still staying on amicable terms with your caregivers.
The Dead Baby Card
This is one of the more common and unscrupulous methods medical staff use to convince a woman that she should make a decision that they’re advocating.
Starting any conversation with “Your baby could/will die if…”
- You don’t have a glucose test.
- You don’t get an induction.
- You don’t have a c/section.
- You want to VBAC.
- You choose midwife or homebirth based care.
- You don’t have an ECV/episiotomy/drugs/other interventions
- Or any other reason.
Is emotional blackmail, plain and simple, unless the sentence is followed by FACTS or anything other than broad generalisations. This is an attempt to make a woman make a decision not based on research, evidence or her own preferences but on fear. The decision may or may not be the right one in the situation, but that is the woman’s choice, based on getting all the facts, not with threats to her child’s life.
Saying No While Still Working Well With Medical Staff
Saying no to a carer who is simply trying to do their job and follow the hospital rules will likely get their back up and make them more difficult to work with. Here are some methods you can use to work with them while still making the best decisions for your own care.1 | 2 | 3 | 4